My last four photography clients have all shared one thing in common, they are all new mothers. I had the privileged of photographing two expecting moms, due with baby girls a month apart from each other. I also got to photograph a first time mom and her newborn twin boys, and I had the privileged of photographing a first time mom’s son during a developmental milestone of sitting up at the age of six months. Being around these new moms, and helping them create lasting memories, had me reflecting on my growing children, my purpose as a mother, and on Mother’s Day. I know that I am not as experienced as most moms, my children are still quite young, and we have lots of growing to do together, but I wanted to bestow some of my “wisdom” to these moms, and other moms, in hopes of bringing reflection and purpose to this amazing role that we have been blessed with.
It was so much fun photographing the expecting moms (one being my baby sister). They had so much excitement and hope for the little girls resting warmly in their womb. We spoke of family, nursery schemes, the craziness of birthing, and of course, baby names. Their eyes would light up when the baby was brought up, and the joy of being with child was spilling through their smiles, and being snatched up by the shutter clicking on my camera. My advice to you, expecting moms, would be to always keep that excitement about your kids. Days will come when your sweet bundle of joy will keep you up at crazy hours of the night, make messes in diapers that are inhumane, pull your hair, draw on your walls, disobey you, and break your heart. Through all of this, remember to keep that same wonder and awe for your kids that you poses right now. Psalms 127:3 states, “Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward.” Enjoy your children, stay excited about being blessed with your children, and keep the flame of wonder flickering in your heart as you raise them.
To the mother of the new born twins, stay gentle. This mom was handling her sweet boys as if they would shatter into pieces if they were held the wrong way. She spoke softly to them, smiled when their eyes met hers, and stroked their little faces with grace and gentleness. Keep this wonderful trait as your children grow. Be gentle with them, and bestow your feminine grace upon them. When they need to be discipline, do it with a firm hand, through love, never in anger or haste. 1 Peter 3:4 tells women to adorn ourselves with “the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.” I encourage you to keep this passage close as you raise your children, strive to be this gentle woman, for your little boys, and for their Daddy. This will lead your children to respect you and other women, and your husband will always feel delighted in your calming spirit.
To the mom of the precious six month old, keep encouraging him. He loved to see you smile and laugh and clap at how he was sitting big and tall for his pictures. He always responded positively to your encouragement, and he will continue as he grows older. Encourage him, and gently push him to do even more greater things. Encourage him to serve the Lord. We all can accomplish great things, as long as we have loved ones pulling for us. Do this for your son, never let him quit, or settle for the norm. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 tells the Church to “encourage one another and build up one another.” I believe this request holds true in our own households as well. Fill your home with praise and admonishment, and lead your your son to greatness.
In closing, I implore each of you mothers to give your child back to the Lord. The blessings of a child are immeasurable, but even more precious than the blessing of a child is to know that your child belongs to Christ and will one day live eternally with him in heaven. Choose to dedicate your life to teaching, instructing, and leading your child on the path to Christianity. Live by example, and they will follow. Stay excited, stay tender, and encourage your children daily to become followers of Christ and be workers in his kingdom. Tell them what Christ did for you, what he did for mankind, and what he can do for them. “In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace which he lavished upon us.” Ephesians 1:7,8. Happy Mother’s Day new moms, enjoy each and every moment with your children. May the Lord bless you on this new adventure!